April 11th, 2017

Setting Boundaries
How do you know when your boundaries have been breached?
You may feel any of these:
• That uncomfortable feeling in your body
 •You feel angry
•You feel resentment for what you are hearing
•When you feel cornered
•Guilt tripped
•Belittled
•When you feel not in control
•You feel bullied
•You feel pressured
•You may feel like you are under attack
•You have no rights
•You have no support
•You have no right to fail
•You are making decisions for others highest good
•Find yourself acting out of duty
•Not respected
•Not allowed an option
 
1.Identify which boundary has been breached for you
2. What tools do you need to work through this?
2. Understand the impact it is having on you
3. What are your fears in relation to this matter?
3.Identify what the aggressor is trying to achieve and why
To continue the relationship at this level may have implications of
•People pleasing
•Ill health
•Unhealthy relationships
•Relationship being fractured
•You may attack back in defence
What to do when you have identified the boundaries are unhealthy
Respect your self
Listen to your inner negative talk
Give yourself permission
Allow yourself the space to process before communicating back
•Distance yourself emotionally
•Don`t engage in conversation
•Walk away
Communicate with the individual politely
• Thanks, I have got this
• I feel I can make this decision
• I will need time to process this before I make my decision
Write it down if you are unable to verbalize
Healthy boundaries take time and communication with both parties showing respect for each other.
Healthy boundaries are important for your success and mental health in life.
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