August 03rd, 2017

​Positive emotional feedback

Yesterday I wrote about the emotional struggles of complex and tough conversations.
Emotions can also be very positive, but some people still struggle to offer positive emotional feedback.
Offering a compliment can take seconds and it`s free but the words can leave an emotional connection and support for some for a life time.
When was the last time you thanked someone for doing something for you that they always just do in their everyday life. E.g. cooking tea, mowing the lawn or the way someone acts or looks, or gave compliment to a stranger or friend?
Emotional positive words can change a relationship in days with a few words either at work or home and in family and friend circles.
Words/compliments can say to someone.
Your special to me
I care about you
I value you
You are valued
You are worthy
You are loved
You are seen
You are heard
You are equal
Why do some find it hard to express emotions?
Not a core value that they were raised with so love and emotions where not expressed with words but with other means like gifts or acts of service. But if these people are in a relationship with others who`s core values are words of affirmation they won`t feel valued or loved by receiving gifts or acts of service.
Fear of been taken advantage of or being hurt.
They may in the past have been taken advantage of or hurt by someone’s words so the association can be a painful memory for them, so to allow others in can feel like risky behaviour to them.
Unfortunately, there is no safety net and at time others may hurt or offend us but this is where it comes back to those tough conversations we need to have, so all are aware of the situation.
Why not challenge yourself:
For one week offer a kind compliment of words with no strings attached to a new person each day. You may just make their day or week.