​What would the world be if inner strength didn`t exist?

I think our world would be like a dessert if inner strength didn’t exist
What do you think?

Where in your life are you feeling the dry dessert feelings?
Are you hating on yourself, living/working in a toxic environment?

Some might say you are flat lining in life.

WHY?
What happened?
When did it start?
What have you done to clear up your clutter?

The opportunity to use your inner strength is always just one step in front of you.

Find the courage to ask yourself, what is the worst thing that could happen if I dig deep
with inner strength and create a plan to find a solution?

You have a choice whether you will use your talents and abilities to explore opportunities to find solutions in life.

Take a deep breath and tap into your inner strength and wisdom.

Get comfortable with using your inner belief that things can be different you just need to start.

1. Get honest with yourself!
2. Know your story (is it true?) write it!
3. What if this story belonged to someone else, what would you tell them?
4. Can you solve this?
5. What is the 1st step you need to take? (1 small step leads upwards)
6. Do you need to change your actions or your mindset?
7. What is the ideal outcome you desire?
8. Have others been before you?
9. What is it costing you not to use your inner strength?
10. Fear kills dreams

 
IS FEAR going to stop you?
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It`s time to use the inner strength to create change
Yes I know its challenging but the sooner you start and stop procrastinating then you will wonder why you didn’t start sooner.
 
What are you going to change today??
Make a list…
Choose 1 item to sink yourself into this week.
 
Comment below what you are committing to so we all keep each other digging deep and using our inner strength to create change.

What are you afraid of?
Imagine what we could achieve if we had no fears!
Are you feeling that you wish to do more but have reservations?
You may be blocked by a fear of
Judgement
Failure/success
Not being enough
Rejection or loss
We may have fears and not be aware as we have learned to live within our safety zones.
But if we are challenged to step out of our safety zone feelings of anxiety, anger may arise because of this.
To enable these fears may find us missing out and may even cause us physical or emotional illness. Fears can have an impact on our relationships and our career.
How can we move forward with these crippling fears?
List your fears
When did they first appear?
What is the story you tell yourself to keep within your comfort zone?
Is the fear real?
Do you have evidence of this?
What is the worst thing that could happen if you tried?
Find a friend/coach to support you to work through your fear.
Break down the experience and try one small step to create a new feeling and story around your fear.
What would feel comfortable for you but also extending yourself around this fear?
What will you feel like when you succeed?
We have one life so don`t live with regrets.
We only leave behind our legacy.
Clock is ticking
Get busy and plan a kick arse life.
 Book a coaching session today.

One liners
Life is filled with many wonderful personalities and we just love interacting with the people who feel just like us and appear to have the same values right, but with those beautiful people we also have those people that challenge, or thoughts and feelings.

Don’t get me wrong we all need our thoughts challenged from time to time this is how we grow but unfortunately there are people who don’t line with our values and can be just down right rude and disrespectful and get a kick out of making others feel uncomfortable.
Those people who say or do inappropriate things.

Remember we all are motivated by different things so from time to time we are going to come across these people who are going to blur the boundaries.
Remember you create your own boundaries.
Just remember not everyone is going to know your boundaries or respect them so it is up to you to have strong open communication to intercept these people.

Here is a few one liner you may like to use.

That`s interesting why did you do that?
That’s interesting you would say that!
That’s interesting you feel that
Interesting view point
I have never looked at it from that point of view
That’s interesting tell me why that is?
I like my plan
A bad plan is better than no plan
What’s your plan?
Would you share your ideas?
Can you clarify your thoughts?
Would you give me more information
What’s your point?
Wow powerful
That’s food for thought
Your entitled to your option
Just my thoughts
I am challenged by that
I would like you to stop
I feel uncomfortable at this moment
I need time to process that
I will get back to you
Thanks for your input but I have got this
I am going to try myself first
I will let you know if I need your help
Assumption is the quickest way to fail.
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Strong communication is not conflict, only if two people are not prepared to listen and be respectful of each other’s values and boundaries.
Each of us has the right to have a voice and be heard.
Find your tribe and don’t sacrifice your life.
You can’t turn back time.
29200 days in your lifetime on average if you where born 10 years ago.
Live with passion
xoxox
 
 
 
 

​Boundaries
When we meet someone new we have the expectation that the person will have the same boundaries as you because that’s what respectful people do right.
To have healthy boundaries we need to have a strong actionable voice.
If you have not had boundaries with people you may be feeling conflicted about people’s actions.
To implement boundaries takes practice so don’t be hard on yourself.
One step at a time.
Practise some one liners to empower yourself to have a voice. (one liners coming next blog)
A strong actionable voice is when we are confident in our voice and we follow through with an action.  When we have a voice not everyone is going to accept your verbal request, so we need to follow with an action e.g. we leave the conversation or room.
You may also need to put a consequence in place to enforce the request.
Some people are so learners and are driven by their own motivators which fills their needs.
Yep  not everyone has the blue print for physical or emotional boundaries.
What I mean by physical is a distance in which you feel comfortable, have you ever met someone that is in your personal bubble and you just can’t focus on their face because all you can see is their ears or mouth. Umm to close and I can smell your breath. You take a step back to put them in the picture of focus, but they just take a step closer. 
Some suggestions you may like to try:
Frown and flex your head back to send the cue they are to close.
Speak up! (have a voice) “personal space please”
Cross your arms on your chest:
This is a nonverbal cue it tells the person you are in protection mode and give a barrier for yourself.
Stand with one foot ahead of your body to give space between the person and yourself
Take a deep breath:
As you breath out direct the air discreetly at their face. People don`t like you breathing on them.
Use Your personal belongings to place a barrier between them and yourself.
 
Physical touch which you find inappropriate or uncomfortable also comes under boundary violation.
Some people are just tactile people but if you’re not that’s ok and you are quite within your rights to speck up. Some people may use physical touch or aggressive touch suck as poking, pushing or placing a heavy hand on your shoulder to suppress and control you.
Some suggestions
Speak up. (have a voice) I am not comfortable with you touching me like that!
Please stop!
Look directly at their hand where it is touching you and then look directly at them with a frown.
Step away, cross arms and use tips listed above.
Boundaries come in many forms:
Abuse physically or emotionally
Expectations of time
Expectation of money or possessions
Touch
Verbal
When we fail to set boundaries and hold others accountable we feel out of balance and unsafe.
We all have a right to have a voice and to feel safe in the world.
Be empower friends.
xoxo

​To suppress our emotions = pain
To enter challenging communication = stress free life
Emotions are part of who we are as humans both men and women are programmed to have emotions good and bad.
Good emotions are to give us hope and enjoyment.
Bad emotions enable us to learn a lesson and create change to evolve as a person.
The rate of suicide is increasing each year.
It isn`t because there are no professional services available for us to access to talk about and learn from our struggles but because we may be living in a world of false pretense.
Social media displays a world of fake lives.
The news broadcast doom and gloom in the world.
People choose to ignore problems or choose to not act on information and hope that it goes away.
Yes, some conversations are challenging to have but think about what you could be losing if you don’t try.
The tools to appropriate respectful conversations are another topic all together.
When we ask how you are we really don`t want the person to really tell us that there not doing so well because that would just be awkward right!
You know what is more awkward is going to a person funeral because of suicide.
We are living in a world of judgement honesty and politeness has sucked the life out of people.
If you were raised in an environment where conversations about emotions where quickly moved on with a
You will be right
Suck it up
Keep busy
It could be worse
Don`t think about
Don`t talk about it
Not your problem
It`s them not you
Stop stressing
You worry too much
It doesn’t matter
What will people think
People will think your weak
Real boy/don`t cry
Tough women don’t cry
I am sorry for your experience.
This may have left you with an awesome tough exterior but a confused emotional lonely interior.
Having the permission to speak of how we are feeling and being acknowledged that it is ok to experience these emotions of life.
When we are given permission to speak of how we are feeling, and it is genuinely received it helps to support the journey of working through the experience.
To supress our emotions can lead to
 poor communication
relationship breakdowns
feelings of inadequate
not being heard
validated
worthy
low work productivity
health issues
stress
anxiety
suicide
When we are given permission to speak of our emotions we can unpack and work through how we are feeling. We are validating our experience and can find solutions and move forward in life, without the emotional baggage which we need to guard to keep our fake life real.
You are never too tough to old too proud to start making life choices.
Your past does not define who you choose to be in the future.
Write your emotions in a journal.
Share with a friend
Seek support of a professional.
Make life changing choices with a Transformation Coach.