Emotional Vampires

​Emotional Vampires

An emotional vampire is someone who you may be left feeling drained after spending just a short amount of time with.

 Yes, we don’t live in a world full of unicorns and fairy dust, we have a world full of people on different journeys.

It may be difficult to understand another may not understand us or our situation.
 You know that moment when you shake your head and go what part of this is acceptable… you are in a circle of an emotional vampire.

If we look at others and see that we are all here on earth to learn different lessons and have internal motivators that drives an action which may be totally unrealistic to us but to the individual it serves a purpose for them.
No some motivators in others are not acceptable and no you don’t have to accept behaviours that have a physical or emotional consequence for you.
You have permission to step away from emotional vampires.

I often hear people say but they are family or a long time friend. Yes, but that isn’t a licence to disrespect you or your values.

Have a conversation of how you feel, use I feel statements not a blame or judgement, avoid using words such as you, always and never. State what you feel you need. If you don’t see a change in behaviour in the other party, then you need to change your behaviour.
If you continue to step into this situation then you are accepting the behaviour and it may continue.
Emotional vampires can only suck the joy out of your life if you continue to step into their world.
You deserve much more, give yourself the respect you deserve.

You are not here to tell others how they should choose to live their lives but to live yours and be honest with yourself and take actions that serve you. (Fill your cup first)

How can you change how you feel about this situation if you don’t have a resolution?
If you are struggling with a relationship journal how you are feeling, what are the emotions you are feeling how are they impacting you?
Journaling is a powerful tool which supports the brain to unpack a situation it removes the loop that runs in the mind and never finding a solution.
Daily journaling is a powerful tool to activate the mind to a problem solving which enables you to release and let go of powerful emotions daily. This will reduce the amount of stress you have in your daily life. Why not take a course in journaling.
Click the link below.
https://wired-4-success-life-coaching.teachable.com/p/journaling-prompts-for-clarity
 
What is another experience you could be doing with your time that brings you joy?
Who are the people you are surrounding yourself with do have a positive attitude to life and are supportive of actions you take?
They say the top 5 people we spend the most time around we become most like.
So be sure those 5 people have your back are positive and have similar values to you.
List your top 5 positive people and their values.
Do they align with yours?
​Have a great day.