Why engaging conversation is the secret to success

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Why engaging conversation is the secret to success

Why do some people find engaging with each other more challenging than others?
Is this you do you dread having to go to functions and meet new people or just don’t feel comfortable even with those you know?
We engage for many reason`s some by choice others by necessity.
Positive engagement and conversation are when both people feel heard, valued and are happy to enter future conversations.

Think back to when you were a child, were you a confident social child or did you rely on others to create and support your engagement?
Did you know the core imprints from your childhood could be the answer to why you struggle to be confident engaging with others today?
By the age of 5 you have acquired many values and imprints from your caregivers and society. These can have a negative impact on your life, but you may be unaware these are working against you in the background sabotaging your positive efforts.
It is not your fault the values and imprints others gift you, but you are able to create new values and imprints of your choice.
Coaching enables you know your values, motivators and imprints and create a new better updated version for you that runs smoothly and is inline with you. It makes sense to create your own values because others are not the correct manual for you. One size does not fit all.
Here are some tips to get you started on engaging with others.

Write down your values, motivator list (are they working for you)?
Do you know of a time when you were confident engaging with others? Draw on this experience to recreate this feeling and experience.
Have you observed others who are confident at engaging?

What do you see and hear?
How can you replicate this?
Don`t

apologise if you have done nothing wrong
Dominant
Competitive
Victim mode
Submissive
Whinging
Generalize
Inattentive
Interrupt
Cut off
Distracted by others or technology
Devalue other experiences
Plan your response while the other is still talking
Mono tone

Smile
Engage
Active listening
Authentic/ genuine
Polite/respectful
Contribute
Ask relevant questions
Positive body language
Boundaries
Mirror behaviour
Confirm with a nod or a word
Pick topics of interest
If you would like to learn more about your values, motivators and imprints give me a call
o421 989 156 Cheers Deb Have an amazing day

1 Comment

Thomas

28/11/2018 06:35:13 pm

The art of conversation is a terrible tragedy of the modern era. Engagement via Social Media is truly a shallow pond to use as a means of meaningful communication. No need to ask why we are engulfed by relationship and mental health issues, many people no longer know how to communicate a need for help!
Well Done........you have raised maybe the most important issue facing us all today.
Hope you get interest from important piece.

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Hi my name is Deb I am a Transformation & empowerment Coach.
When life is just not what it should be.
I am here to tell you what your feeling is real and it`s not your fault
because you may be following “core imprints” which are not aligning with your values and needs.
Your behaviours and emotions can be been driven by your early imprints hiding in the background sabotaging your conscious efforts to the best version of yourself.
Let`s explore this for a moment, what if you could remove imprints that are not working for you?

I work with people like you who want to get results and success.
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I believe there are billions of people in the world but if I am able to impact just one and you pass on your learnings we have made a difference.
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